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Wedding Advice from a Real Bride: Tips and Tricks for a Stress-Free Day
Wedding Advice from a 2024 Bride – 6/27/24 From the Connecticut Brides to Be Facebook Forum
I got married Sunday(!!!) and while it’s fresh in my mind, I wanted to share some thoughts from the planning process and the day itself. Some are budget related, some are just general planning tips, and some are for those who are just generally anxious or “stressy” about things.
**This is a long one just FYI,**
Starting off strong…
1. Splurge on the things you truly want to enjoy on your day and save on everything else.
This one is super common, but I feel it’s worth emphasizing. We went all out with the venue, music (live band), and photo/video, and kept everything else more conservative. Our centerpieces were simple and minimal, including our decor, and we have no regrets. To be completely honest, we didn’t even have time to notice most of anything. The day goes by so fast that you really only are able to take in so much. Prioritize what you want to enjoy on your day!
2. If you have family contributing monetarily, you still can stand your ground on decisions.
Every family/support system is different, but in the end it is a day for YOU and your future spouse! As someone with a “high-maintenance family”, what worked well for me was having family focus on things that really didn’t make-or-break the day. Think flip flops for the dance floor, bathroom baskets, etc. If you give them something they can control completely, you’d be surprised at how easily things will go.
3. Choose a venue with a legitimate rain/weather/indoor plan.
One of the main reasons we chose our venue was not only was their outdoor ceremony area incredibly beautiful, but their indoor plan was also just as beautiful. I am a very anxious person, but I had no anxiety regarding the weather that day because I knew that whether it was outside or inside it would still be beautiful. We toured some other venues and way too many places have a less than ideal option or no option at all if there’s inclement weather or it’s too hot/cold.
4. Pick a venue that suits your personality and tendencies.
I get anxious about a lot of things, so what was important to me was the following:
* Having the venue all to ourselves for the day
* Having everything in the same place (getting ready, ceremony, reception)
* Having a solid weather option (see above)
* All inclusive – no need to worry about catering/bar/tables/linens/etc
All of these aspects were important to me but may not matter to you! Think about how you may feel on the day and use that to your advantage when choosing a venue and vendors.
5. Pay vendors in cash for a discount.
This may not work for all vendors, but we were able to save 10% on photo and video by paying in cash. Ask your vendors if this is an option!
6. Seriously consider going digital, especially for RSVPs.
We used The Knot for our whole RSVP process. I created our invites on Canva and included a QR code for RSVP. No return cards or tracking needed. It made that piece so much less stressful.
A few notes on what I think made things easy for us:
* In the RSVP form, we also asked for email addresses. This allowed us to send reminder emails about our wedding day as we got closer.
* About a month after sending invites out, we reached out to folks to make sure they received our invite (very politely). I think this made a huge difference down the line with having to only chase down a handful of people after the deadline.
* Nobody complained about the digital RSVP, and if there were issues, they reached out or we sent them the link directly.
It may feel like too much communication, but we had full attendance day of, which surprised both of us!
7. If you want to make time for you and your spouse alone, do a first look.
We went into this wedding fully expecting to pop into cocktail hour. Instead, after the ceremony and family photos, we had about 30 minutes to ourselves up in the bridal suite to process and decompress. It was extremely worth it after being in “go mode” for the first chunk of the day. I also was grateful to have most of our pictures done before the ceremony. There are many reasons to do a first look, but I just wanted to share my perspective on how motivations can change! Obviously, this only really is helpful if you haven’t seen your spouse all day prior to, but you do you!
8. If you are Type A/like to plan, make time once a week to work on “wedding stuff”. Also delegate stuff to your non-Type-A partner.
There is no need to think about your upcoming wedding every single day. Especially if you have a longer engagement (we had about 2 years), allow yourself the space each week to really hone in on anything that needs to be done. Pick one day a week for you and your partner to look through the to-do list (yes I know you have one) and see what can be taken care of. And if there’s nothing pressing to do, make it a date night!
Also, please delegate certain things for your partner to work on/manage. It will save you so much stress.
9. If you are walking down the aisle, nothing will prepare you for how that will feel.
I was basically crying the entire time from stepping out of the suite to the aisle and even walking down. It is a surreal experience and feeling, and very hard to describe. All of your closest people standing there supporting you and envying you. Honestly not much to say here except that there is really no way to prepare for this.
10. There is such a thing as too much partying.
My single regret is not telling our band to have a set with more laid back/jazzy vibes in between the dance sets. They were still incredible, but the general tip is make sure your DJ or band knows to slow it down a bit for those who don’t want to jump around and dance hard. I’ve even been to weddings where the DJ was just all high-energy music the entire night and it became super tiring and un-exciting.
11. Have non-dancing activities for your reception.
I made a crossword puzzle that was at each guests seat and it was a big hit! When we made our rounds, we constantly had people asking us what the answers were (to no avail obviously) We also had a photo booth too! Not all of your guests will want to or like to dance, so it’s definitely worth catering to those folks.
12. And lastly, you can literally do what ever you want! It’s YOUR DAY!**
Do or don’t listen to me, an internet stranger. Do what feels right to you! You (ideally) only get married once and will probably never have as many people from so many parts of your life in one room again. Make it your own and I promise that all the little things you are worried about won’t matter as much on the day. It’s really about the people and the incredible human you are choosing marriage with!
If you made it all the way through, I hope these thoughts and tips help those who are still planning!
We hope you enjoyed reading this very detailed entry to offer wedding advice from a 2024 bride.
The Covid Bride Guide. I’m Freaking Out about my wedding!
Amidst the pandemic that we’ve all come to know and love are a plethora of challenges that come with events great and small. We’ve grown used to the idea that it will be quite some time before we see the all too familiar summer concerts, sold out pro sports events, and theatrical events. But within all of the restrictions there is a silver lining. Over the last 8 months, we’ve gone through a series of transitions from completely quarantining to being able to have 150 people inside and then back to 25. But with all of this back and forth, it’s nerve wracking. Especially for those covid brides planning their nuptials.
I prefer to look at the long term. Progress is slow and steady. You remember the story of the tortoise and the hare? The tortoise won the race. We’ve been in the entertainment business for a quarter century. We’ve seen massive technological changes, the desires of our clients shift from traditional to outside the box and highly personalized service. This is no more than a transitional phase for us. We’ve been able to roll with the punches and keep growing during periods of uncertainty. This too shall pass. (hopefully sooner than later)
Here’s what we’re planning for in the 2021 wedding and events season. I suspect that during the holidays we will see restrictions increase to prevent the spread and lower the numbers of infection. But once that happens, some leniency should happen during the spring as it will be much easier to host events outdoors. The venues that prepare themselves for more of a mobile setup with catering, seating, and yes…. dance floors, are going to be in a much better position than the places that solely rely on the interior of their venue. As to the restrictions of social distancing, dancing, and foodservice, the wedding industry is taking their cues from the restaurant industry as they are the closest cousin to hosting events on a medium scale.
We anticipate that many couples may decide to privately hold their weddings on their property or in smaller locations that can comfortably accommodate a lean guest list. Think of it like private vs public school. The benefits to private education is smaller classrooms and more individualized attention. The same can be said for weddings. Having a smaller boutique affair will be able to give you the gusto you’re looking for but on a more manageable scale. Hiring a planner is paramount to make this happen. We recommend Nightingale Events & Pink Olive Events to our couples. Both teams are extraordinary at what they do and create magic every where they go.
When it comes time to dance, I’m reminded of a wedding that I hosted over the summer at Water’s Edge. The ceremony was held on the beautiful CT Shoreline Beach and the party was tented just outside the main ballroom on the patio with 75 guests. And even though, a formal dance floor was not present, guests danced between tables in their groups with the tables offering the social distancing required to keep guests and staff safe. Staff was required to wear masks through the duration of the reception and most guests adhered to the rule as well.
All in all, where there’s a will there’s a way. We’re in the business of fun. And that’s what we do.
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Take control of your wedding – Hire a professional
It’s your day. And you’re the boss.
You’ve taken creative control of the decor, the bridesmaids dresses, the menu, what shots your photographer needs to take, and have written a minute to minute schedule of events that must be adhered to or there will be hell to pay. Sound familiar? It happens every day.
With so many things to think about to ensure that your $20,000, 6 hour celebration goes off with out a glitch, it is understandable that you want to ensure that things go to plan. It’s also easy to understand that with making that kind of investment, theres some stress that comes along with it. You and your soon to be spouse have made a commitment to throwing the best party that world has ever seen. But this is different than setting up a veggie tray and some chips & salsa on the counter at your home.
A wedding is very much like a theatrical production.
(Cue the house lights, fade to 50%. Enter bride, stage left)
Because your wedding has so many moving parts to make it perfect, you must rely on the expertise of trusted professionals to orchestrate your vision down to every last detail. And when it comes to hiring professionals, it requires an investment of not only money, but trust as well. You’ve picked the venue of your choosing, the photographer that you feel will capture you at your best, the hair and makeup team that will enhance your natural radiant beauty and hide the imperfections that you stare at in the mirror for hours, and a wedding planner that has your vision in the front of their mind from start to finish. But beyond all of that, it all comes down to the DJ.
If you’ve been reading this blog for a while now, you know that it’s a pro-DJ sentiment. And why is this?
At every meeting that we conduct with new couples like you, we always ask, “What do you remember about the last wedding you attended?” Suffice to say, 9 out of 10 couples say the same thing. They talk about the food and they talk about the entertainment. It’s what is remembered the most. We also often hear stories about how the DJ couldn’t quite get people dancing and after thinking about it for a moment, many times we hear that the couple had complete control over the music being played and furnished the DJ with a playlist.
Now there’s nothing inadvertently wrong with playlists. I mean let’s face it. You like what you like. BUT, your guests may not share the same tastes in music as you. What may get you shaking your ass on the dance floor might be your grandmother’s version of kryptonite. And what might be your spouse’s “JAM” might clear the floor. And we know, line dances aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. They are typically the first offenders on the DO NOT PLAY list.
So this begs the question, how do you ensure that you and your guests will enjoy your celebration? Hire professionals. Invest in what is most important to you. And TRUST the professionals you hire to put their best foot forward for you. Take the time to meet with and interview your creative team. Communicate with them often, and breathe.
You’ve got enough on your plate and we know that.
Investing in your celebration means more enjoyment for you and your guests, and less stress for you.
10 Reasons Why CONNECTICUT is the Wedding Capitol of New England
When most people think of CT (who don’t live in CT), they envision a yuppie paradise full of cul de sac neighborhoods, BMWs in every parking spot, and everyone resembles Barbie & Ken. Believe it or not, that only accounts for 1% of Connecticut. The rest of Connecticut is very diverse and a melting pot of culture, ethnicity, and music. That would explain why Connecticut is the Wedding Capitol of New England.
Being the 2nd smallest state in the Union has it’s benefits. In the heart of Connecticut, you are only about an hour and a half from New York City and two hours from Boston. You can imagine the baseball rivalries that happen here. But what about weddings?
Here are the 10 reasons why Connecticut is the Wedding Capitol of New England.
1. Wedding and event Venues
Connecticut was one of the first states incorporated in the nation. Because of that, there are many historic properties that host weddings. Places like the Wadsworth Mansion, Saint Clements, and Gillette castle are just a few places that hold historical significance. So if you’re looking to enjoy sophistication and old world charm, these might be some great choices for you.
If marble, gold, and architecture is your thing, Connecticut is the place for you. With the highest concentration of Italian-American citizens in the United States, they’ve brought their passion for fine masonry and lavish decor. Venues such as The Aqua Turf, Farmington Club, The Riverview, Waterview, La Bella Vista, Grand Oak Villa and Connecticut’s newest addition, Aria, the possibilities are endless. The mediterranean influenced cuisine paired with the stunning marble architecture and sculptures are the perfect setting for the most regal of occasions.
If you’re a country bumpkin or appreciate the simpler things in life and love a venue with rustic charm, Connecticut has some great country and barn wedding venues to choose from. Venues like Bill Miller’s Castle, Wood Acres Farm, The Barns at Wesleyan and Winvian are a must see.
One of Connecticut’s best features is it’s waterfront property. From the Litchfield Hills to the shoreline, theres a perfect wedding destination waiting for you. If you’re a land lover and want to stay off the shoreline, venues like The Riverhouse at Goodspeed Station and The Pavillion on Crystal Lake are great locations. Wanna be on the shore? Check out places like Anthony’s Ocean View and The Mystic Seaport.
But more than venues, we’ve got even more to offer. Wedding professionals are at a 1 to 100 ratio.
2. There’s a DJ for EVERY BRIDE in CT.
From simple to lavish and conservative to liberal, you’ll find it here in CT. Because of the massive ethnic diversity, Connecticut has a DJ for every nationality, personality, and preference not to mention, every budget.
3. Four seasons means LOTS of flowers to choose from.
Just in Cheshire Connecticut alone, there are HUNDREDS of greenhouses. It’s the greenhouse capitol of New England. Connecticut at one time was plentiful in farms.. From the vibrant spring flora to the earthy autumn, Connecticut’s flower farms are sure to please. Many venues also feature seasonal favorites that make a spectacular backdrop for wedding photos.
4. Wedding Paparazzi that Hollywood would be jealous of.
Wedding photographers are plentiful here. The scenic backdrops of New England have brought many photographers here. Because Connecticut is considered a ‘High End’ wedding state, we have some of the best photographers that you can find. Timeless photos from Eric Foley. Simply sarcastic photography from Sassy Mouth Photo. Mike Ross offers a classic photojournalistic style. Photo Expressions is fantastic at finding the perfect backdrop for your photos. And don’t forget about Connecitcut’s favorite bad boy, Airen Miller for something modern, edgy, and very svelte. Pair any of these photographers with picturesque New England and you’ve got a winning combination!
5. A truly Cinematic Experience.
mebCINEMA, Inspiration in Motion, and Custom Made Video are true artisans at what they do. This won’t be your parent’s wedding video. Each one of them are truly talented in capturing the best moments on film. But don’t take my word for it, have a look for yourself on our wedding page. www.PrymeTymeEntertainment.net/weddings
6. See you in 30 minutes or less.
No matter where you are in Connecticut, you will find a wedding happening within 30 minutes travel time of each other. Being such a small and concentrated state, travelling to your wedding is a snap!
7. And speaking of travelling, go in style.
Limos are big business here. Connecticut is the halfway point between New York and Boston and many people, some Very Important People live and work here. So there is no shortage of high end transportation to suit your needs. From classic Cadillac limousines , to party busses and stretch hummers, you can travel in style. Prospect Limo and Gateway Limo are some of the finest transportation resources in the area.
8. Unwavering Tradition
Connecticut is a progressive state however, we believe in tradition and the consistency of old world values. Because of this, service is KING in Connecticut. Expect to be pampered and your every desire met. It’s just how we roll.
9. Cruise Control.
If you have a love of the water, Connecticut is a great place for your special day. With hundreds of miles of shoreline on Long Island Sound, The Connecticut, and Housatonic Rivers, you can take advantage of many of the yacht and charter tours that run every day. If you’re from Long Island and your wedding is here in CT, travelling just got easier. Enjoy one of three ferries that run every hour from Long Island to Connecticut.
10. It’s all about convenience.
With so many things to think about on your special day, it’s not uncommon to forget something or need a last minute item. Connecticut was built for convenience. You won’t have to travel far to find what you need. Connecticut is also home to hundreds of 5 star hotels for the convenience of guests with overnight accommodations.
All in all, Connecticut is the go to place for everything Wedding.
Lake of Isles Wedding – The Wedding of Lauren & Chris
Lake of Isles Wedding – The Wedding of Lauren & Chris
Weddings like the wedding of Lauren & Chris don’t happen everyday…
The setting for their ceremony @ Lake of Isles at Foxwoods Resort and Casino was the quintessential New England fall wedding. Over 200 guests bundled up and headed to the shore to witness Lauren & Chris’s new beginning as husband and wife unfold.
After the ceremony, guests headed up to the clubhouse for the start of a magical evening. Guests of all ages were socializing, enjoying a tasty beverage and letting their inhibitions fly in our Funtastic Photo Booth. The bridal party was introduced to Rihanna’s popular club hit, ‘We Found Love (In a hopeless place)” which set the tone for the rest of the evening.
High energy was where it was at. This group wanted to party. Thanks to Bethany and the amazing staff at Lake of Isles, dinner service was as much efficient as it was tasty. In just over an hour, over 200 guests were served appetizers, and 2 courses which is great for us because it allows the maximum time for dancing.
And speaking of dancing, there was LOTS of it. Guests young and old packed the dancefloor solid for nearly 3 hours straight and enjoyed hits from the 50’s to today. As we always do at the end of our weddings, we sent Lauren & Chris off with a bang singing and dancing to BEP’s The Time.
This wedding was all about Lauren & Chris. At the end of the night, hugs and goodbyes were exchanged. The very next day, I read Lauren’s review and was awestruck by the wonderful things she had said about us. Thank you so much Lauren. It means alot.
To read Lauren’s review, please visit our WeddingWire Page by clicking the link below. Stay tuned to our facebook page for video of Lauren & Chris’s wedding provided by mebCINEMA!
Those Sucky Wedding Vendors (thoughts from a real bride)
Those Sucky Wedding Vendors (thoughts from a real bride)
I was browsing the Weddingwire Forums today when I came across an interesting post from a bride entitled ‘SUCKY WEDDING VENDORS‘
Here’s what the bride had to say…
“Sucky vendors
Good lord I think I attract the crappiest vendors. Let’s see: Venue: switched 4 months in because the woman would take over a month to respond to a question and messed up our cake tasting 3 times. Photographer: just fired her last week via email but I have no idea if she even knows because she NEVER checks her email, facebook or texts and stranded me after I gave her a deposit back in November. Seamstress: made an appt last Saturday for my first fitting at 11am. They booked another appt at the same time and the woman wasn’t even there so I waited til 12:30 to see some woman who was just there to man the shop. Spoke to her yesterday and made an appt for today at 12:30 to go on my lunch break, I get there and another woman tells me “oh no, she never works on Fridays”. I took my dress n left n it’s now behind the door in my office-how special. WTF. Any one else have a-holes they are dealing with?? Did you leave them or juts stick it out??”
Good question. What should you do if you have a vendor that’s not communicating with you? It is after all one of the most important days of your life and a large life investment both emotionally and financially. Here’s what we had to tell her.
“Although I am a vendor, I can understand your frustrations.
This is what I tell every bride that comes our way….
The most important factor when finding vendors for your wedding is that they are a good fit. Are they the right personality? Do they conduct business professionally? Do they have any references? Are they isnured, etc…
If you do have a vendor that you are happy with, ask them for referrals. If they’re like me, they will want to make sure that they are only referring QUALITY vendors and not just a guy they’ve heard of on google.
Though you are not a client of mine, I would be happy to help you. Your wedding day is supposed to be a fun and enjoyable experience. Depending on what your tastes are, I might be able to steer you in the right direction to help you find some folks that would be a good fit. Best wishes!”
Now that may seem a little cliche but, it’s true. Most brides automatically go to price first and service second. Shouldn’t it be the other way around? Being a good fit for the bride is so very important. The right personality means everything. So brides, take the time to get to know your vendors. Meet with them over a cup of coffee. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. When your vendor talks to you, they should be honest, helpful, and accommodating. Because it’s all about you.