For those who don’t know me: A guide to giving wedding toasts

For those who don’t know me, I’m Aaron and I am a wedding dj in CT. For the last 28 years, I’ve hosted over 2000 weddings. For the most part, no two weddings are the same but one thing that takes place at nearly every wedding I host is a wedding toast to the happy couple. I’ve seen some really great wedding toasts, quite a few hilarious toasts, some rather uncomfortable toasts, and everything in between. And with nearly every toast spoken, they start out with, “For those who don’t know me.” So, what are you supposed to say? How do you write the perfect toast?

First things first. Remember why you are there. Your friend or family member chose you to offer a toast on their wedding day because they love you. You have been their rock and their person. Perhaps you have shared many wonderful memories together or have gone through some challenges together. Either way, you are a very important person to them. It’s an honor to be asked to toast a couple on their wedding day.

Second, the couple’s wedding day is a celebration of them. Always keep that in mind. This is an opportunity to show gratitude for your person and the couple. To be their cheerleader and support system aiding them in a successful and happy marriage.

Last but not least, remember that weddings are a melting pot of people. There may be grandparents, parents, extended family, bosses, fellow parishioners or clergy from their church. Try to keep it PG13 if possible. Your toast is a direct reflection of representation of how you and others see your friend or family member. Keep it light and fun if possible. Recall a funny moment you shared together to bring a bit of levity, and honor your friend with dignity.