Inappropriate Wedding Music

Is there such a thing?

Wedding music. We’ve all heard the term. But what is wedding music? Is it the YMCA? The Chicken Dance? Maybe the Cha Cha Slide? Is it inappropriate wedding music?
NOPE!

Those are all organized group dances. They can be played just about anywhere to get people moving. But when it comes to wedding reception music, there’s a lot more than you think. Sure there’s the top 200 wedding list that can be found on just about every other wedding website. But what if you’re looking for something other than the same music you’ve heard year after year. And wedding after wedding?

First, let me just tell you, there is a reason why there are as many repeats as there are. Most guests will attend 2 maybe 3 weddings in their lifetime. And many guests, especially our more senior guests, probably don’t get out to the club that often. While your parents, aunts and uncles want you to have the time of your life, they also want to hear Don’t stop Believin and Brick House. It’s what they’re accustom to. It’s what they like. And let’s not forget about the rat pack. Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin, Sammy Davis Jr. Grandma loves her Sinatra. 

But, when it comes time for you and your clique to get out there on the floor, what do you like? And what’s appropriate? We’ll get to that.

It’s 2018. Social media is buzzing with angst about a classic christmas song, “Baby It’s Cold Outside“. Apparently, it was mis-interpreted as a song that encourages date rape. On the flipside, we also have Cardi B on the airwaves inviting listeners to engage in extreme sexual acrobatics. But either way, whether you’re a fan or not, it’s where we are in music today. 

Innuendos in songs are a favorite in music since the dawn of popular music. The difference between your grandma’s Elvis record and cardi b is that Elvis simply “hinted” at the topic of sex with witty one liners. Today, it’s all out in the open and there’s no hiding from it. 

So how should we handle this? The same way we’ve been handling music for years. With discretion. Thankfully, professional wedding DJs subscribe to music services like Promo Only, Primecuts, XMIX, and DMS. All very reputable resources for getting the latest and greatest music that everyone wants to hear. They also do a fine job of ensuring radio friendly music is readily available to wedding djs. 

Because of that peace of mind, we can play just about any song because they are radio friendly songs. And if the beat’s alright, your guests will dance all night.  There’s no such thing as a bad song. It’s all in where you put it. Actually I stand corrected. A bad song clears your dance floor. A good song keeps it packed all night long. 

So how do you prevent the DJ from playing inappropriate wedding music? Be up front with your music expectations. Tell them what you like and what you don’t. Share with them experiences you may have had at weddings you have attended. And last but not least, trust your DJ. Music is their life.